What does it take for absolutely anyone to lead a decent life? How hard is it to be nice to other living beings? I look at the world around me, and the world brought to me by various media and technologies, and everywhere there is evidence of cruelty, bullying, dividing one group from another, waging wars, hurting or even killing others, so many many different ways to not be nice to others, and I have to ask myself why? Why not be nice? It is so much easier, and so much more rewarding, to be nice.
Being nice is especially spiritually rewarding. It doesn’t matter what a person believes, or what they feel they believe, or even what they want to believe but don’t. Being nice, decent, is the most healthy way to live, because it costs nothing, and doesn’t cause any bad stress. Being nice actually helps heal a damaged spirit, and being nice in a group setting actually increases that healing exponentially. Two people being nice to someone or something doesn’t double the reward to each person, it quadruples it. Three people being nice to someone or something doesn’t triple the reward, it increases it by a multiple of nine, and so on. (Actually those numbers don’t even tell the real story, and are just being used to demonstrate the idea that the bigger the group the more rewarding to every member of the group. Acting decently alone is one thing, and should always be encouraged. But acting decently in unison with others is an even greater thing, and the more people or beings in that group, the greater the healing spirit. This is why researchers have found that people who attend spiritual meeting places, be they organized religions or just regular people coming together in one place to act decently together to each other and to others who need help have a greater feeling of happiness than do those who don’t act decently to but a chosen few.
The key of course is not acting together and doing something to or for someone that is nowhere in actual contact with the person or group, but to do the decent thing directly to or for another living being. Not that raising money for people in a far away disaster area is bad, but it is not as spiritually rewarding as raising money for someone in the nearby community and seeing them accepting that money and the help it will bring. Even better is actually giving the person or people or other living being or beings the actual thing or comfort. Bringing food to a starving family is so much more rewarding than bringing money, because who knows if that family can get to a store to spend that money and bring the food home. Food fills bellies, money does not.
But I am getting off my intended topic for today. Living a decent life costs nothing, but the reward, especially the spiritual reward is fantastic. Did someone or something piss you off lately, and you chewed them out or treated them horribly to get back at them, to teach them a lesson? What did that do for you? Made you feel superior to them for a few minutes? Made you feel like you accomplished something good? I’m betting however such an action made you feel, the feeling was only temporary, and in the end you felt bad. If you are a decent person, I know you ended up feeling bad. So why did you do it?
Taking the time to be nice to anyone or anything does not make you feel bad. In fact, taking that time makes you feel immediately good, and somehow connected to the other living being’s spirit. That connection is what heals. Being alone, particularly always being alone, is not a spiritually healing condition or way to be in life. Our spirits need decent or nice connections to other spirits. These nice connections are what makes us feel a part of something greater than oneself, a part of a spiritual community that heals old injuries. And that is part of why I am writing about living a decent life today.
But here is the real reason: living a decent life, and acting decently towards other living beings every day of your life, is actually helping the spirit I call Life. Life is the repository or bank where all good deeds are stored–not as written reports, but as decent spiritual feelings. The more decent spiritual feelings anyone stores up, the better they will feel about themselves and the lives they are living. Depending on what you believe, religion or philosophy, theism or atheism, heaven or non-existence after death, if you live a decent life, you are working towards a decent death, and if there is one, a decent afterlife.
I don’t know what you believe, but I know what I believe, so I will relate this to my own beliefs. I do not believe in any supernatural being guiding the fate of the universe, as you know if you have read any of my other blogs. But having said that, I also believe in the eternity of life, particularly spiritual life. I believe in reincarnation, but I also believe there will be an end to reincarnation on this plane of existence, a transfer to yet another and yet another plane of existence, each plane providing different learning possibilities. This plane we are presently on, this so-called third dimension, is the plane where we can learn cooperation and respect with and for all living beings. Given what we see around us, or through various media and technologies, it may not seem that way at all. But think about it: the more we see how bad we human beings can be to other human beings and other living beings not human, the more we feel bad and hopeless for the future. But do we leave that there? Do we just give up and say what will be will be? Or do we stand up for ourselves and for others? Do we feel a desire to change what is? Do we feel a desire to make something better of and for ourselves and our fellow living beings.
I readily admit, the odds are against us for succeeding, but poor odds have never stopped us for cheering on the underdogs. Even people who don’t do many decent things in their lives, or do decent things often, feel a little uplifted when an underdog wins. And decent people are definitely the underdogs on this plane of existence, because despite our numbers, we don’t have the power that most non-decent people have. Yet, slowly but steadily, our numbers and decent acts are wearing down those powers-that-be, forcing them to crumble under our feet. It won’t be today, or even tomorrow, but as long as we don’t blow ourselves and our universe up, we will win. Because the more decent acts we accomplish, the better we are making the accumulating spirit of Life, and the more decency that Life learns, the more it wants to learn, until Life itself moves on to the next plane of existence. And we, the individuals who together and in unison make up life, will all be transported forward with Life.